5 NSFW sites to learn what porn didn't teach you
In the United States, sex education is pretty poor; some states don't require it at all. Because of this, porn often replaces proper sex education — which is a disservice to everyone. Porn is a filmed performance, where everyone is positioned so all is on display, and sexual acts often look different than they do in real life. Most of the time, porn doesn't show the intimacy, variety, and awkwardness that real sex has. If you're an adult and feel like your bedroom knowledge is lacking, you're not alone — and there are resources tailor-made for you. Beducated, Climax, and OMGYES are among the top NSFW sites to learn more about sex.
1. Eduporn by Afterglow
Women-owned ethical porn site Afterglow has a series within the site called Eduporn. As the title may suggest, it's the most porn-like of this list and incorporates explicit scenes along with tips. Your teachers are adult performers themselves, so they entertain as well as educate. There are various "how to" eduporns to choose from on Afterglow, like how to have sex when you have a disability and how to have sex outdoors. It's less technical than the subsequent options, but these go into practical tips on exploring sex.
2. Beducated
Beducated is like a Coursera for sex; there's a wide range of modules that dive deep into topics, not single videos. When you sign up, you list your sexual interests (and what you don't want to see, which is a nice touch) and your demographics (age, sexuality, and relationship status). From there, you can explore sections like recommended for you, most popular, and based on interests you picked when signing up. Beducated has modules for all types of activities, from learning basic sexual acts like cunnilingus and fellatio, to education on emotional wellbeing.
3. Climax
Climax is a video-based platform that breaks down vulva pleasure techniques based on scientific research. Climax pulled together insights from 74 sexual health and pleasure studies for their first two seasons, on external and internal pleasure respectively. The platform also interviewed sex therapists and tantra teachers, which is especially helpful for their content all about tantra exercises. Each season is a series of videos with different pleasure techniques.
4. OMGYES
OMGYES is for people who want a scientific approach to learning about pleasuring vulvas. For the scientifically inclined, these resources regularly include statistics from their third-party research and surveys. This site focuses on a researched approach to sex and techniques based on scientific research.
Service Comparison and Costs
- Afterglow: Costs $2.99 for a day, $9.99/month, or $69 for a year. It is for people who want to watch porn and learn.
- Beducated: Costs $29.99/month or $16.67/month if billed annually. It is for people who want an extensive menu of sexy topics to dig into.
- Climax: Costs $56/month or $346/year. It is for people who want researched approaches to sex and tantra.
- OMGYES: Costs from $49 to $149. It is for people who want a scientific approach to learning about pleasuring vulvas.
The Importance of Sexual Education
Pornography is the McDonald’s of sex — fast, convenient, and utterly divorced from nutrition. Online porn exploits the lack of mating opportunities for men. However, research shows women are attracted to men who signal three primary attributes: resources, intellect, and kindness. Currently, there are too few venues where a man can develop the skills to express romantic interest while making a woman feel safe. These NSFW sites teach you what porn didn't by providing practical tips and researched approaches to intimacy.