My Favorite Remote Control Vibrators for Men (for Femdom!)
There are a whole lot of sex toys out there designed for remote control. After all, it’s a hot fantasy, right? You get to sit there, starry-eyed at your partner over a restaurant table, knowing they could turn you on with a press of a button at any moment. While, traditionally, a lot of remote controlled sex toys have been designed for vagina-owning people, there’s been a recent trend of new remote control vibrators for men. Today, I want to highlight the remote control vibrators for men with a slant on femdom play.
The Importance of Reliability in Femdom Play
Yes, we want the sensations to be pleasurable for the wearer, but I’m gonna be real with you: remote control play isn’t fun for the command-issuer if the sex toy refuses to take any commands. Then your play turns into a back and forth conversation of “Did it work?”, “Is it on?”, and “Did it stop?”. It’s frustratingly distracting from feeling like this powerful domme who can turn on your partner with a push of a button, and it makes it difficult to fit in dirty talk around all of the logistical conversation.
If I’m going to reliably use a sex toy for remote-control play, for it to be functional for me, it needs to be reliable. That’s really the biggest takeaway for me. The pleasure it provides my submissive, penis-owning partner is definitely a bonus, but it’s not the focus. So, yes, priority #1 is my ability to depend on the toy’s ability to respond to commands EXACTLY when I want them. I’m happy to put up with vibrations that only offer a tease if I can always depend on them to work exactly as I need them to.
Rating Categories for Remote Control Toys
With that in mind, here are the remote control vibrators for men for femdom that I use, evaluated by these specific categories:
- Initial Connectivity: This refers to how well I’ve found the toy to connect to the app/remote EVERY time I turn it on. If I want to play, I want to get to the playing – not swear at a toy that won’t find its own remote or my cell phone.
- Responsive: This is the biggest of them all: How well does the toy respond to the remote’s commands? When I press a button, does it register instantly? It needs to work with and without clothing obscuring the toy.
- Public: If I’ve used it in actual public circumstances, this is how well it worked for that. In this case, “public” would be described as physically going out with my male sub while he wore the toy.
- Long-Distance: This is defined as controlling the toy from a different location – like a state away or from a different house. In modern male vibrator remote control toys, this is usually accomplished by pairing the toy to the user’s phone via an app.
- His Pleasure: I, personally, am always aiming for a toy that can get him to orgasm – whether that’s penile or prostate. So a full 5-stars is a toy that can do that easily – even if I choose to continually deny him that option.
- How Much I Love It: This is based on how much I enjoy using the toy on him. Toys with more interactivity or better visuals will get higher scores from me here.
Key Features and Connectivity
The femdom then downloads the same app, the two people “friend” each other on the app, and the femdom is given permission to control the toy via that app. It is important to note that all toys on the market require the toy wearer’s consent for control during each session. There currently aren’t any toys that provide blanket consent at all times – or blanket control of the toy at all times.
Performance Summary Table
Based on the evaluation criteria for remote control play, the following table summarizes the key focus areas for selecting the right toy:
| Category | Description and Importance |
|---|---|
| Initial Connectivity | Ease of setup for first-time or repeat use without technical frustration. |
| Responsiveness | Immediate reaction to commands, even through layers of clothing. |
| Public Utility | Functionality during restaurant visits, classes, or kink events. |
| Long-Distance | App-based control allowing for play across different locations or states. |
| Pleasure Factor | The ability to provide intense sensation or induce penile and prostate orgasms. |
| User Enjoyment | Visual appeal and interactive elements for the person in control. |
The pleasure it provides my submissive, penis-owning partner is definitely a bonus, but we can always use other methods of pleasure to get him off later (I mean, if that’s what I want to do).